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How To Get Kids To Help Around The House

May 2, 2015 by 21 Comments

“How can I get my kids to help?!” scream the mothers of the world! In all the years I have been a mother, almost every bit of advice I have studied say to motivate your kids using charts with stickers, allowances and various forms of bribery. I have personally used all of these methods. I believe in using them because I have found they work great.

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Filed Under: Cleaning, Featured, Kids Tagged With: Cleaning, housekeeping, Kids

8 Cloth Diapers Tips For Newbies

April 11, 2014 by 49 Comments

8 Cloth Diapers Tips For Newbies

8 Cloth Diapers Tips For Newbies

If you are considering cloth diapers, here is my story. Among other things, I will explain how I wash my cloth diapers and how many you need to start. Many people have many different motives for using cloth diapers, but my motivation is purely to save money. I do use disposable diapers for traveling because it is more difficult to store dirty diapers when I’m not at home.

I love my cloth diapers! I LOVE THEM!!!! My husband doesn’t even mind using them. We found that they are not really any more difficult to use than disposables, except that we have to do more laundry. We also found that our children had much less trouble with diaper rash when in cloth rather than disposable. For a while, I had two children in cloth but now my son is potty trained. My daughter is starting to potty train so soon I won’t have any in diapers.

You don’t need many to start. You can start with one dozen and just wash everyday. Two dozen does make life easier. I buy the good quality pre-folded diapers and strongly recommend that you do too. They are called Diaper Service Quality pre-folded diapers. They are great, wear well and last a long time! I think I paid $23.00 for one dozen. (I returned some disposable diapers that we received as a gift and used the money to buy the cloth.) I have about 5 dozen now but I got most of them for free (as gifts or from people who no longer needed theirs). I only purchased 1 dozen of the DSQ from a mail order place on the Net. They are out of business now but you can find them other places. Also look on E-bay. They often have them too.

One thing that makes my cloth diaper experience different from the horror stories your grandparents tell is that I use diaper liners. They are fast, cheap (about $3.50 per box) and easy. I cut them in half and use 1 for each diaper. One box of liners lasts me almost 1 year.

I use good diaper pins that I purchased from the diaper seller and I stick the pins into a bar of soap or beeswax when not in use so they pierce the diapers easier. (With good pins, I only poked the kids 3 times in 3 years. Mike never poked them at all!)

I use plastic pants that button up on the sides. I also purchased those mail order. I use the Alexis brand. They last MUCH and I do mean MUCH longer than the Gerber plastic pants you purchase at Wal-Mart or K-mart. I have about 5 pairs of each size. I don’t use clean plastic pants every time I change a diaper. If the plastic pants are only wet, I put them right back on. There is not usually enough to make the diaper wet and the plastic pants generally aren’t wet on the outside either.

I made 2 diaper pail liners out of rain ponchos by sewing up the sides. I put those in a kitchen trash can with a lid that closes. I just throw the wet diapers and liners into the pail with nothing in it. I don’t soak my diapers. I dump the poop and the liners in the toilet. (Much easier than grandma’s method!) I reuse the liners that were only wet after they are washed and dried with the diapers. They wash well so I get several uses out of them which saves even more. I don’t dunk the diapers in the toilet unless they are REALLY bad. I have done it maybe 5 times in almost 3 years with 2 kids. In order to avoid directly handling the soiled diapers, I put the opening of the diaper pail bag into the open washer, then turn the bag inside out to empty the diapers into the washer. I throw the entire bag into the washer inside out to wash with the diapers.

Instead of using disposable wipes, I use small rag wash cloths (old wash cloths cut in half). They have more traction and do a better job of cleaning than disposable wipes. Where I use one wash cloth, I might have to use four or five of the disposable wipes. I do still use disposable wipes for traveling, but I save a lot by not using them every day.

I wash diapers about every two or three days. Washing this frequently really keeps them from smelling. (Unlike wine, diapers do NOT improve with age! 😉 )Every time I wash, I wash with vinegar and detergent. The vinegar works wonders removing the urine smell and also keeps the house from stinking while I do laundry. I put diapers through the rinse cycle twice. Then I dry them on the line or dryer depending on the time of year. (Diapers last much longer when dried on a clothes line and the sun helps keep then white. They wear out much faster if you always use the dryer.) I use bleach about every 1 or 2 weeks to keep them white in the winter when I can’t line-dry them.

If I were to buy disposables I would spend about $350 a year per child for diapers, wipes and extra trash bags. (Many people have said they use double that at least.) I only spent about $50 for the trash can, rain ponchos and plastic pants and $23.00 for one dozen diapers. I spend about .50 a load to wash them. (approximately $65 per year. This didn’t change when I had two in cloth vs. one in cloth.) With one child in diapers for 2 1/2 years and one for 2 years I saved over $855 in the 3 years that my kids were in diapers.

That’s it. It’s so easy and so cheap that I would rather spend that money on something else!

-Tawra

 

Jill from Michigan asks:

“Tawra – I read your information of cloth diapering and I’m wondering how much vinegar you wash them with and do you use special laundry soap?”

Tawra: I put in about 1/2 – 1 cup in and don’t use a special detergent.

I had 2 children the first one did fine in cloth diapers but the second one had diaper rash really bad and I had to switch over to disposable. I say this so that you don’t think there is something wrong if the cloth diapers don’t work for you . Each one is different.

Jill

 

What No more Cloth Diapers?

Ok, you guys caught me!

After my post on Disposable Diapers I got an email saying “I thought you used cloth diapers?” Well, I did with my first two and had no problem with them even like them because if I ran out it wasn’t a big deal to go to the store, just throw them in the washer. Plus we lived in Idaho at the time and couldn’t “just run to the store” because it was 60 miles away.

Well with David, #3, we have used all disposables. Here is why. After he was born he literally cried his entire first year. I am not exaggerating when I say the ENTIRE first year with no reprieve. My mom was living with us for the first 4 months and between Mom, Mike and I were all about to go insane, me more than the others. I got post partume (sp) depression really bad and the doctor could not find a medication to help, it just made me worse. I felt like I was loosing my mind and if a Mack truck would have hit me head on while I was driving I could have cared less.

To make matters worse because we weren’t sleeping my CFS was so bad I literally could hardly stand up. Then we had just moved into this bi-level house and going up and down the stairs over 100 times a day (I kid you not!) it was making so sick I thought I would die! In case you don’t know exercise makes CFS flare up, ie. get worse.

My two oldest were 4 and 5 at the time and still wetting the bed almost every night. It was all I could do to keep up with the laundry and attempt to just keep things picked up (sort of) and some sort of dinner on the table, which was mostly really fast stuff like sloppy joes, tacos, frozen pizza. etc. About once a week Mike would bring home Chinese food from the grocery store ($5 for two) and him and I would share that, give the kids the rice and fill it in with cereal or pb&j. We used paper plates several days a week and everyday for lunch. ($3 a month). Mike was also working 50-60 hours a week between 2 jobs and helping with our book business, which we don’t get an income from yet. He was also helping out with the housework because I couldn’t keep up.

We were going to some sort of doctor every 3 days trying to figure out what was wrong with David. Then to try and get me straightened out mentally and physical therapy for me because my bladder so was weak from 3 kids I was going to the bathroom every 15 minutes. Then 2 months after that I fell down the stairs and had to go to PT to help get my back, back in shape. We went 120 times the first year of David’s life to some sort of doctor.

Our primary doctor kept saying that David “just had colic” We finally figured out at 4 months old that he was allergic to milk and eggs. That explains why he just quit breastfeeding one day at 5 weeks old. I was eating a lot of milk and eggs. Well, after that he went on formula that cost $250 a month. It helped some but not a lot. At 9 months we took him back to the allergist because I knew despite what the doctors said colic doesn’t last 9 months! Well, the formula he was on still had milk in it! The allergist told us to put him on Alsoy, which was only $40 a month! The other doc said “oh, well I thought it would be fine since it was pre-digested milk”. I have never had the urge to just haul off and punch someone before in my life like I did when he made that comment. Needless to say I figure out what’s wrong with us first by researching the internet before I go to the doctor now. They really don’t have much of a clue, it’s just a guessing game.

That helped some David but then he started to have allergies to outdoor pollens because it was April.

At 14 months he started doing better after he was off the formula but I wasn’t. For the last nine months we haven’t gone 2 days in a row without someone being sick. To say I was on the verge of death from exhaustion and CFS is an understatement. Around Christmas last year (2004) I finally found a medication that worked for the depression and I am finally feeling like a normal person again. I have also gone off of sugar, mostly, and that has helped my CFS greatly. I notice that when I have a binge week of sugar it makes me really really sick and almost in bed again.

Anyway, that is long version of why we have used disposables for David. My sanity could not handle two more loads of laundry a week if my life depended on it!

Do I believe in cloth, yes! But I also know that everything in moderation is the only way to go and if circumstances are such that you need to use them, then by all means do!

Tawra

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Reader Ideas on Packing Food for Road Trips

June 3, 2010 by 2 Comments

 

Here are some reader comments about the “Packing For Road Trips” Article along with some good suggestions from experienced moms! -Tawra

Kelly Z. From Augusta, Kansas writes:We frequently take long trips in our van with 5 or 6 children and we have found the following to be very helpful:

    1. Bring a potty seat. You still need to pull over, but it is great for that child potty training or for “I can’t hold it anymore!”
    2. Everyone travels in sandals – Shoes always seem to get kicked off and mom and dad don’t want to wait 5 minutes for everybody to put on their shoes, so we pack the tennies and travel in sandals.
    3. We borrow books on cd or tape from the library to listen to.
  • We stock up on notebooks at the beginning of the school year so for each trip, each child gets a brand new notebook to draw in. There is just something about a new notebook!
  • Mom and Dad get big tupperware cups of water. The children get sports bottles of water. Water is passed out about an hour before each scheduled stop, unless you are in diapers, then you get unlimited water in your sippy cup. We freeze a gallon of water (in a milk jug) before we leave. As the water thaws, we have cold water. We have advanced to needing two gallons. Much cheaper than buying bottled water.
  • Our favorite things to eat on the road: 
    Breakfast:
    1. bagels with cream cheese
    2. cinnamon buns from Sam’s (approx 2.50 for a 12 pack)
    3. grapes in snack size bags
    4. cereal in a snack size bag

    Lunch:

    1. peanut butter and honey sandwiches cut in quarters and in bags
    2. ham and cheese sandwiches cut in quarters
    3. 2 snack size bags, one with crackers, one with slices of lunch meat and cheese

    Dinner:

    1. Same as lunch
    2. Pizza…stop at a pizza store, buy 2 large pizzas, ask for paper plates and napkins and eat on the road. Of course, there are now some gas stations that do pizza, so it would be even easier (and cheaper!)

    Snacks:

    1. Fruit: bananas, apple, pear or orange slices in snack size bags, grapes in snack size bags,
    2. Veggies: baby carrots (don’t take broccoli, if anybody drops it and it gets warm, it gets pretty stinky!)
    3. string cheese
    4. Graham crackers in snack size bags
    5. Chewy Granola bars (the crunchy ones made too big of a mess)

 

  • Our older children love having a personal cd player or cassette player to listen to books on tape/cd
  • We only use our DVD player if I am making the 12 hour trip “home” by myself with the children. Then, after each 3 hour stop, I will put in a new DVD.
  • When driving by myself, I use the 3 hour rule. Every 3 hours, stop at a well known gas station (Quik Trip, Super America, etc), everybody goes in for potty break/ diaper change, mom buys an extra large cappuccino to keep her alert. We fill up with gas, if needed. Mom passes out snack/meal or we go through a drive thru. Mom gets the DVD ready to turn on after they are done eating. Repeat in 3 hours!
  • New Hot Wheels…the boys and the girls stay occupied with these for hours!

 

 

Carrie Writes: I loved the article about packing food for road trips. When my hubby and I take day trips, we like to leave early in the morning so we always pack breakfast. I pack a cutting board to assemble bagel sandwiches on. We splurge and get fancy bagels, cream cheese, smoked salmon and juice. I also bring baggies to hold anything that the smoked salmon touched because it can get stinky. This is one of our favorite treats! Thanks for a great newsletter. I learn lots from you ladies 🙂

 

For more money saving tips like these along with hundreds of delicious quick and easy recipes, check out our Dining On A Dime Cookbook!

 

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Filed Under: Featured, Saving Money Tagged With: Kids

Easy Homemade Face Paint Recipe – How To Make Face Paint

June 2, 2010 by 2 Comments

Kids love painting their faces! Here is an easy homemade face paint recipe to make homemade face paint with ingredients you already have at home! It’s a great way to keep kids busy and off the computers in the summer! [Read more…] about Easy Homemade Face Paint Recipe – How To Make Face Paint

Filed Under: Gluten Free Recipes, Kids, Kids Recipes, Recipes Tagged With: Gluten Free, Homemade, Kids

Summer Snacking for Kids

June 1, 2010 by 6 Comments

If it seems like your children are eating 10 times the amount of food in the summer compared to when they are in school, they probably are. For some strange reason most children have a super growing spurt in the summer, not to mention that they are no longer just sitting at a desk all day.Usually, they’re out running or swimming off that excessive energy all summer long. Because of all of this, they really are hungry and use all that fuel quickly.

Here’s an example of a day’s worth of snacks in my daughter’s house:

Popcorn
apples
packages of peanut butter crackers
muffins
apples, bananas and other fruit

Prepackage things like cereal or crackers into ziptop bags in 1 serving size.

She also places a bowl in the fridge with cheese sticks, yogurt and other cool foods.

Do you feel if you hear “I’m hungry, what is there to eat?” one more time, you will not be responsible for your actions? Here’s an idea my daughter came up with to help her keep her sanity: In the morning after breakfast she filled a bowl or plate with the day’s portions of snacks and sets one out for each child. When acute starvation hits, they then can just grab something out of the bowl instead of screaming “MOM…” one more time.

Stop the snacking about an hour or so before the next meal to make sure they will eat their lunch and dinner.

Jill

Filed Under: Kids And Food Tagged With: Kids

Ask Tawra and Jill – How do I?

April 22, 2010 by 110 Comments

Here are some “Short Answers” to some of the questions readers have submitted to Tawra and Jill:

Jill from Michigan asks:

“Tawra – I read your information of cloth diapering and I’m wondering how much vinegar you wash them with and do you use special laundry soap?”

I put in about 1/2 – 1 cup in and don’t use a special detergent.

 

Janel From New Jersey asks:

“Hi! What can I use to clean wooden kitchen cabinets? Some of them are sticky and greasy (especially over the stove). Thanks, Janel”

I use Murphy’s Oil Soap. You can find it in the cleaning section of the store. Tawra

I use Dow foaming bathroom cleaner. I spray it on the gook literally rolls off. I once had to clean a house in which the cabinets were covered in a thick gummy layer from having a heavy smoker in the house and the Dow just bubbled it right off. I use it more in my kitchen for all grease then I do in my bathroom. Be sure to wipe dry when you are done. Jill

 

Nancy from Ellinwood, Kansas asks:

“Can you use canned pumpkin to make your pumpkin pancakes, sauce, etc?”

You sure can! It works great!

 

Mollie From Florida asks:

“What is the difference in types of powered sugar? Usually the recipes call for powered sugar, but not what type. I bought 4x and someone told me that you should only use 10X.”

If you are just doing baking at home it doesn’t really matter. Where it matters is for professional bakers who do fancy things like wedding cakes. Whatever I find in the store works just fine for me. I have never had any problems with my baking because of it.

 

Denise From New York asks:

“Is it possible to freeze chili con carne? I am the only one in the household who eats it. I only make it a couple times in the crock pot because it can be expensive(because of the meat).”

Yes, you can. I just freeze mine in 2 cup portions in zip top bags or 2 cup plastic containers.

Elizabeth Asks:

“I put self-rising flour and all purpose flour in separate containers for storage, however I never marked them. Is there any way to tell which is which before I go to bake, like adding a little liquid to them? “

You might taste them. The self rising would have a bitter salty, baking powder taste to it.

 

Kathleen writes:

“I see tips frequently about how to re-use vacuum bags. Please remember that the bag is part of the filtration system, and will not work nearly as well after emptying it. You would be doing yourself, and your vacuum a favor by buying the cheap bags and changing them more often, rather than try to re-use them.

Thanks for the tip, Kathleen! We tried this once — ONLY ONCE. The resulting dust cloud quickly made us realize it was a a bad idea!

 

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Limiting Kids’ Activities

April 21, 2010 by 10 Comments

Many people are overwhelmed with the stress and cost of extra kids activities. Here’s how to save money and reduce stress by keeping activities reasonable! [Read more…] about Limiting Kids’ Activities

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Children, Wasting Food and Portion Control

April 16, 2010 by 7 Comments

Stop Throwing Away Food!

I have discovered the secret of saving money feeding babies, toddlers and preschoolers. Well, I can’t take the credit for it. My mom taught it to me many years ago but I didn’t put it into practice until the first financial crisis we had when my husband was laid off.

What I have been practicing now for many years has now become one of the new buzz phrases — “portion control”. Usually when we think of portion control it is in connection with dieters and not young children or saving money.

Most American parents serve themselves and their children huge portions of food. Their families eat only part of it, and then they discard the rest. Next time you scrape those half eaten plates of food into the trash, think about this: 30% to 50% of the food and drinks we buy, whether we eat at home or out, get thrown away. That means if you are paying $500 per month on groceries, you are throwing $250 in the trash each month. If you don’t believe it’s true, observe your own family this week. How many half full bowls of soggy cereal do you throw away? How many pieces of toast get tossed only half eaten? What about half empty glasses of juice, milk or pop? With young children this is usually worse, but adults often do it too.

It is easy to forget that children under the age of four have only about a quarter of an adult’s body weight. Often, we feed them adult portions and when we do give them smaller portions, each portion is usually only reduced to about half an adult portion. Do you use that large serving spoon and dump a full spoon of food on your child’s plate? Say you give yourself two spoons of green beans and your child one– That means that you have given yourself about 24 green beans and your child 12 when in reality, that child needs only about six.

Many parents wonder why small children resist eating everything on their plates. What if you were given double portions at every meal? When parents press kids to keep eating when they are full, they inadvertently encourage obesity. It is no wonder that we then end up throwing away half of the food left on their plates. When deciding how much food to give your kids, start small and work your way up. Remember, if they eat what is on their plates you can always give them more. If they consistently ask for seconds, then increase their portions.

Use the same method for drinks. Even a small sippy cup should only be filled half full. This not only reduces the amount that you throw away, but also reduces the losses from spills. I once heard a mom say she always bought two gallons of milk instead of just one. One gallon was for the kids to drink and the other was for them to spill.

Another great way to save a lot of money is to give children more water. In addition to serving children overly large portions, failing to give them enough water leads to obesity. At this point, many parents point out that young children need lots of milk and juice. That is true to a degree, but consider this: The USDA recommends 12 oz of milk per day for children under 4. That is equal to two sippy cups. Before you fill those two sippy cups, remember that kids get milk from other sources too, including milk with their cereal and cheese on their sandwiches. Ask any doctor and he will tell you most people are not getting enough water.

It is easy to think that if something is good for us then even more is better. That isn’t always true. Fertilizer helps our lawns grow, but too much fertilizer can kill the same grass we are feeding. The same rule applies to feeding our children. We think the more juice and milk they get the better, but once kids have had as much as they need nutritionally, the rest just adds calories. Just as with adults, feeding kids too much leads to all kinds of health problems including obesity and diabetes. It also encourages them to develop bad eating habits that get more severe as they get older.

If you are ready to cut the waste from your food budget, here are a few more tips to save money and make your life easier:

  1. Cut the crust off your child’s sandwich before you give it to him. I have tried for years to get my children and grandchildren to eat the crust and have discovered that it is like trying to climb Mount Everest. It can be done, but I’m not sure if it is worth all the work and headache. So give in and cut off the crust. Throw it in a bag and use it for bread crumbs or croutons. Then the kids will eat their entire sandwiches instead of just that hole in the middle and you won’t waste the sandwich filling that would have been tossed with the crust.
  2. Cut kids’ sandwiches into small squares or triangles. Their hands are smaller then ours. Imagine always manhandling sandwiches that are two to three times normal size and you can relate to kids with full adult-sized sandwiches. This goes for all their food. Cut anything they have to hold in their hands into manageable sized pieces.
  3. Spills always happen, but they can be minimized. Try placing a paper doily at the top of your child’s plate or someplace where you know a cup won’t be likely to spill. Then teach the child that the cup belongs on the doily. Even the youngest child will learn quickly to always place his cup back on the doily and out of harm’s way.
  4. Start giving your little ones only half of items like candy bars, gum, and popsicles. When you go out to eat, split a hamburger or order of fries between two younger children. You can even ask for an extra cup and split milk shakes and drinks. Better yet, just order water. Save the milkshakes and drinks for a special treat and the kids will appreciate them more.
  5. Control snacks. Don’t just let the kids graze all day on candy and chips. Give children healthier things to fill them up, like like popcorn or a piece of fruit at specific time intervals.
  6. Feed toddlers and preschoolers your leftovers. They usually don’t balk at them like older children do. All those two tablespoon leftovers that are hardly worth saving are usually just the right amount for younger children.

 

      -Jill

For more tips to help you save money on kids’ expenses, check out our Saving With Kids e-books.

 

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Filed Under: Kids And Food, Save Money On Groceries Tagged With: Kids, Save On Food, Saving Money Everyday

Make Your Own Custom Lunch Box

April 1, 2010 by 4 Comments

 

Have you ever looked for a lunch box that your child would like only to settle for something that you knew wouldn’t quite do the job? I have more than once found myself frustrated because all the lunch boxes I could find were either too expensive, too cheaply made or featured characters my kids didn’t like on the front.

One year, after keeping my eye out for a lunch box for BJ for some time, I ended up buying a plain soft sided lunch box from Wal-Mart. I wasn’t too excited about the quality of the lunch box, (It was one of those cheap soft sided vinyl ones.) but since I had to settle for one that wasn’t what I wanted, I bought one of the less expensive ones.

After a few months use, the lunch box just shredded. I wasn’t surprised, but I was back to square one. BJ still used the rapidly deteriorating lunch box for a few weeks while I looked for a replacement, but in that time I couldn’t find anything. Finally, it kicked the bucket and I needed to find something that weekend.

We had an old Pokemon lunchbox that was just a spare. I think we bought it at a garage sale for a quarter. It was one of the hard plastic ones that is usually a little more durable. No one really likes Pokemon in our family, but we went ahead and got that lunch box to keep as a cheap emergency replacement.

Even though he never liked Pokemon, BJ does have one great love in life. He is just wild over Furbies. The kid is Furby crazy!! If you don’t remember Furbies, they were one of those toys that people would stand in long lines overnight to buy for their kids back in the early 90’s.

 

Of course, it’s great when your child loves a craze after the mania is all over because you can find the things to collect at garage sales and thrift stores for cheap! 🙂 Most of BJ’s Furbies cost a quarter or less.

I decided since I couldn’t find a good quality lunch box he would like, I would make him a Furby lunch box. I found some Furby clip art on the Internet and printed some of the ones I thought he would like. (I didn’t think of it at the time, but I could have taken pictures of his Furbies with a digital camera and printed them instead.) Then I cut them out and glued them on a piece of white paper that I had already cut to the size of the lunch box face to make sure the entire Pokemon logo was covered.

Once I had the Furbies glued to the paper the way I wanted it, I glued the paper with Elmer’s glue to the lunchbox. Then I covered it with contact paper. I trimmed the contact paper to size with a razor blade and put a bead of glue around the edge to "seal" it. After letting it sit all night, it hadn’t dried, so I set it in the sun to dry that day. Unfortunately, the glue never dried and then the clip art faded.

Sometimes it takes more than one try to get it right. I started all over again and this time I did everything the same except I used glue made specifically for plastic. It worked perfectly! The lunch box was a huge hit with BJ and right away, Elly wanted her own "special" lunch box.

I made a lunch box for her the same way, using My Little Pony art. It only cost me a few minutes worth of work, even considering that I had to re-do it the first time. This "custom lunch box" has worked well for BJ for more than a year. 

Tawra

 

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Filed Under: Kids Tagged With: Homemade, inexpensive, Kids

Healthy Eating

February 10, 2010 by 18 Comments

Sandra writes:

I really hope you can help me. I am going crazy and, at the same time, I am hurting my 4 year old. My daughter turned 4 last month but here is the catch — She weighs 68 lbs. I know she is way over weight. That is what everybody keeps telling me, but they never seem to have any solutions.

I have cut out almost all of her unhealthy foods and she is very active. Please help me. If not for me help a 4 year old nip a life time of battling weight in the bud. Well, at least get it under control.

Jill: First let me say I am not a doctor or weight loss specialist. I don’t know if you have taken her to the doctor or not but if you think her weight is a serious problem (and it sounds like it is) then you should, of course, do that. Now with that being said (remember I am not a doctor and these are only my opinions) here are a few things you might think about trying. It is hard without more details to be exact so I will have to talk in generalities.

I have lived long enough to have seen almost every diet there is to hit the news only to last a couple of years because that is about how long it takes to figure out it’s not working. I remember many years ago the high carb diet was the way to go. Eat as much pasta as you want and lose weight. These days, most people would have a heart attack (literally) just thinking about that diet let alone doing it.

I remember another time a woman arguing with me how “they” said that margarine was so much better for you and less fattening than butter. She just kept insisting that I should stop eating butter. I sat there wondering if she realized the irony of our situation. I was 5’3″ tall at 110 lbs. and she was the same height at 175 lbs. Was I the only one who saw there was something wrong with this picture?

I mention this because you made the comment that you are feeding your daughter mostly “healthy” foods. If it is an eating problem and not a medical one, I have found couple of things to be true.

First, it generally has little to do with what diet you are on or what healthy food your are eating but more to do with the portions you eat. It is just as important to watch portion sizes as what you are eating. Even if you are carefully using the portion size on the package, remember that packages usually describe an adult portion and not a child’s, so adjust it accordingly.

Get a copy of the food pyramid and follow it. These are easy to find. Just type in food pyramid on the computer or go to the library and check out a book on basic nutrition. I think you will be shocked at how small the serving sizes are and how many of them we really need. Often, we eat 2-4 times as much as we really need. Remember, most of the time these charts are geared for adults so again adjust accordingly for a child. (A child’s serving size is smaller.)

Here’s a point that you very rarely hear: All foods have calories, healthy or otherwise. I personally feel that this is why so many people who are continually trying to lose weight don’t succeed, even when going on a “healthy” diet. If you take in too many calories, healthy or otherwise, you will gain weight.

My daughter and I were discussing this just a couple of days ago. Her doctor, for health reasons, had put her on a very strict diet, with the healthiest foods possible, but she was gaining weight. The nuts she was eating were terribly high in calories and so were some of the other things.

I have known people to fill their children with an endless supply of raisins letting them eat handfuls because they were healthy. Sure, raisins are healthy, but they are also very high in calories and sugar. There was a time when the “experts” pushed eating muffins because they were so much healthier than donuts, but boy do muffins have a lot of calories. This is another place where you need to think twice about how many calories are in that healthy snack (especially now that the typical store bought muffin is 3-4 servings instead of one).

You still gain weight off of off most foods, whether they are natural or “junk food” if you eat large portions. Unfortunately, we often think “healthy” means “no calories” or “all you can eat”, so we allow ourselves and our children to eat much more than is reasonable. When we’re in this mindset, it is difficult to understand why we are gaining weight when we are eating healthy.

Another area people forget to watch is their liquid intake especially when it comes to our children. We all know that pop and Kool-aid will cause our children to gain weight, but what we forget is that milk and juice will do that, too.

We often pour milk and juice down our children because we think it is a quick and easy way to make sure they are getting their fruits and veggies for the day. It is much easier to get a child to drink a glass of juice than to eat a carrot stick. It’s also easier for us as moms to pour a glass of juice than to clean and cut a carrot. I know, I have been there and done that.

I know I have said this before but use milk and juice as part of your family’s nutrients and use water to quench their thirst. That means that if they have a bowl of cereal with milk in the morning, that milk provides the dairy for that meal, so just give them water at that meal instead of a glass of milk.

Even though milk and juice can be healthy, more is NOT always better. Once a child has had the necessary requirement of milk or juice, giving them more milk or juice is not  better than giving them Kool-Aid or pop.

One last thing: The Bible says over and over to do things in moderation and that includes our food. Eat a moderate amount of food (that means a moderate amount from each food group, not an all this or an all that diet). And don’t allow food to become your god.

One day I was shocked when it dawned on me that I had spent more time reading food labels and thinking about what I should or shouldn’t eat than I spent reading my Bible that day. Most of us Christians would say in no uncertain terms that we don’t worship idols and have no other gods before God, but be careful — Satan is subtle. What do you think about all day long? Is it about what you are eating, did eat and are going to eat? How much time do you spend studying and reading about food, diets, etc? And who do you go to for comfort? (There’s a reason they are called comfort food).

I am not saying that you personally have a problem with any of these things. This is just what I know to be true in my own life and what I have seen and heard from others around me.

Jared the Subway guy, who lost all that weight said it well. Following the popular diets and “healthy” ways of eating that everyone recommended was not working for him, so he kept trying different things until found out what was right for him even though everyone would have told him it wouldn’t work.

Hopefully these things will help you to look at what your daughter is eating in a new light and mom, don’t panic and get stressed over it. So often parents say “well I don’t let my kids see that I’m upset”. Don’t sell your children short. They are very intuitive. You don’t have to move a muscle on your face but they can still sense how you are feeling, so make sure above all else you get a grip on your emotions concerning anything.

I hope this helps.

       -Jill

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